Posted by

Staying in a marriage without trust means accepting that you’ll never truly be at peace or truly happy in your marriage

Dear husband, yesterday I was missing you and couldn’t wait for you to get home from work, and yes, when you got home I did get my sense of balance back.

You do have a way most of the time of making me feel like everything is going to be okay; but then come those times when you shatter everything. Things have been pretty quiet for a while and I’m grateful for it, but the problem with letting my guard down with you is that every time I’ve done it in the past it proved to be a very big mistake.

I don’t think you quite understand what it means that I can’t trust you because you don’t really get that trust is everything to me. Because you’ve betrayed me so many times and I’m still here I guess you figure trust can’t really matter as much as I say or else maybe you figure there’s really no consequence for betraying my trust anyway so why worry? But there is a consequence and we’re living with it every day. It’s like the dirt under the rug I talked about yesterday.

Trusting you again would be the biggest mistake I could ever make in my life and yet if I am never able to trust you again how can I ever be truly happy with you and at peace with my choice to stay married to you?

VN:F [1.9.22_1171]
Rating: 10.0/10 (13 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.22_1171]
Rating: +3 (from 3 votes)
Staying in a marriage without trust means accepting that you'll never truly be at peace or truly happy in your marriage, 10.0 out of 10 based on 13 ratings

Write a public letter to your husband

0 4 3604 15 October, 2010 Dear Husband October 15, 2010

About the author

39 (almost 40) year old married female, mother of 1

View all articles by Shannon

4 comments

  1. Prab

    Shannon,

    I’m sitting here amazed at the fact that you damn near repeated every thought in my mind VERBATIM. Wow.

    Reply
  2. Missy

    I live it everyday. My husband has lied to me so many times I can’t count. Why am I still here? Why didn’t I leave the first time? Now I have 2 girls who would be devastated, so I’ve stayed. Knowing he will hurt me again.

    Reply
  3. James Arnold

    Missy
    I understand i think she uses my love for our daughter against me. I dont believe anything she says anymore. I have promised myself this is it. 1 more lie im out no matter what.

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Skip to toolbar