Why shouldn’t your husband tell you that you need to lose weight? If you need to lose weight the people who love you should be willing to tell you and you should be willing to understand that if they didn’t care they wouldn’t bother to tell you. Yes, your husband is telling you that you need to lose weight because he doesn’t want you fat and that is a vain concern on his part, but he’s also telling you because he cares. He’s allowed to be selfish too. The expectation of blind love and adoration is completely unrealistic. Your husband is communicating his honest thoughts and feelings to you. Pay attention to what is and stop worrying about what you think ought to be. Love in reality is very different from love in fantasy.