If you have arrived here looking for advise on how to make your husband love you more than he loves his mother, you have right away identified one of the biggest factors that will thwart your efforts to achieve this goal. You are competing with your husband’s mother for his love. That is almost always going to end with you being very miserable for a lot of years or getting divorced before too long. The same way your husband’s mother has no business interfering with his relationship with you, you have no business interfering with your husband’s relationship with his mother. A man’s love for his mother and his love for his wife are never at odds in his mind or heart because he loves his mother one way and his wife another. He can’t love his mother more or less than you because his love for his mother and his love for you and two completely different kinds of love.
If your husband seems to care more about his mother’s comfort and her happiness and well being than he does about your happiness and your comfort and well being what you need to be examining and worrying about is your and your husband’s relationship, not your husband and his mother’s relationship. His love for his mother doesn’t threaten his love for you. It’s not like he has only so much love to give and once he’s given 90% of it to his mother he only has 10% left for you. If your husband doesn’t seem to love you as much as you would like him to love you and as much as you think he ought to love you, you should focus your attention on figuring out why that is and what to do about that within the boundaries of your marriage. No one else can be held responsible for your husband loving you less than he should. If someone can make him pull away from you then he was never quite fully with you to begin with.
Sometimes the best way to get on your husband’s good side in situations where there’s conflict with his mother in which he appears to take his mother’s side, is to cease the conflict, embrace his mother and learn to love her as much as he does.