It’s not how long you’ve been married that affects whether or not you still kiss. Check out Rob Lowe and his wife Sheryl Berkoff sightseeing in Rome recently, walking holding hands, kissing. They’ve been married 20 years so yes, you can totally be still into each other and still kiss after 20 years, although the kiss looks more deeply felt on the wife’s part than on Rob’s. He sort of looks like he’s just doing what’s expected more so than what he wants. In other words I see more desire/need in the wife’s grip on his mouth and the way her mouth is pursed waiting to receive his kiss (in the second photo). On his part I don’t see the desire or the need. (photos