Ok, so your wife is a bitch and you hate her. Here’s how you fix that. File for a divorce. Hate has no place in a marriage. A husband should not be calling his wife a bitch, nor she calling him any similar names. The relationship between you and your wife is supposed to be one that adds value and enhances both your lives. The point at which it’s no longer doing that and what you feel for your wife is hate and what you think about her is that she’s a bitch, you no longer have reason to be married to each other. Even if there are children in the picture you can both still be parents to your children without needing to be husband and wife when at least one of you would rather not be.
Now, of course, if you’re just angry about the way things are in your marriage and you’re finding it difficult to communicate with your wife, but it isn’t really that you hate her and it’s not that you think she’s a witch spelled with a B but just that she frustrates you by acting controlling and petulant and you don’t like the way she chooses to express herself, you can always try to get help from a third party to help you and your wife learn how to communicate better and build a better marriage. A better marriage can be built. It’s just that usually we don’t want to bother to try because it’s not really all that easy. It takes more work than we’re willing to invest. We find it easier to just hold on to our resentments and walk around hating each other and calling each other names.
You have to figure out for yourself if it’s worth it to make the effort to buy and read marriage books, take marriage courses, talk to marriage counselors and actually dig your hands down in the worm infested dirt and start planting the seeds that will transform your marriage from a wasteland to a flourishing garden. Ok, so I need some work in the metaphor department but my point is, your marriage is what you chose to make it, and if you’re not willing to go out with all the tools needed and do the work necessary to make it flourish then you should just officially and legally abandon it and be done with that.
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