Today my wife ate an entire pack of biscuits in a fifteen minute period and I’ve finally hit my breaking point. If I don’t find a way to change this situation soon I’m going to end up getting divourced.
My wife and I had a baby two years ago and since then she has put on a lot of weight and I’m really not sure what to do about it anymore. I knew that we’d both probably change physically after the child becaue we’d have a lot less leisure time to go to the gym etc but my partner seems to ahve completely given up, even when I offer to stay home and baby sit so she can go out and do something active but she chooses not to.
It’s not just that she has physically changed that I’m finding hard to cope with but how her attitude and outlook on life has changed that’s starting to drag me down.
In many ways she is awesome, she’s kind, caring, funny and a great Mum but there’s this side of her now that has been growing for some time and it’s starting to take over.
She’s getting angry and argumentative over everything, she’s constantly snappy, she seems to have become incredibly judgemental with people and it seems that it doesn’t matter what anyone does for her it is never good enough. She is even making family gatherings difficult as her constant eye rolling and irritability is starting to be noticed by family members and she is putting me in awkward situations with my parents and siblings.
We used to have an amazing sex life, we both liked to experiment and try different things but since the baby it has become none existant. Again, I don’t really expect anything near to the level that we once had but she seems physically repulsed by the very idea of it and even if I try to make everything as gentle and comfortable as possible she still makes me feel like a rapist.
I have tried to bring these issues up in a sensitive way and she just gets really defensive, I’ve suggested counselling, short breaks and a whole variety of other things but she just doesn’t seem interested. We are rowing more and more and I’m at the point that I’m going to have to end it soon because I can’t spend the next forty- fifty years feeling this miserable and depressed.
To be honest, if we didn’t have our child i would end it but I absoloutely hate the thought of not seeing my daughter every day. I know that staying together for the sake of the children isn’t a good idea so I’m trying to find something, anything to make it work before it’s too late.
Any idea’s would be really appreciated.