Help me,
I love my wife & we have a story book romance but she is incredibly selfish sexually.
I was her first boyfriend / lover 25 years ago.
We have been reunited /married for almost 4 years & I don’t want to cheat on her.
Our sex life is OK, but I miss blow jobs.
I have had partners in the past who would give me head to completion on a regular basis ;but my wife has only done so twice.
It is a part of our forplay, but that’s it.
Here’s an example, tonight she came home to wine, home made dinner, great conversation, then showered together.
She approached me for sex, I never say no.
I went down on her, she got off, we had sex she got off a few times then started talking while I’m “trying to get mine”.
Finally I asked “why don’t you take care of me (orraly)”?
This lead to a debate which ended with me saying” nevermind, I’m fine ” & getting dressed .
I feel very neglected sexually, I may not being arrogant but I’m a nice looking guy & a good lover who never had a problem getting sex in the past.
The real problem is I REALLY miss receiving a blow job, & cheating is crossing my mind quite a lot.
I truly love my wife & don’t want to cheat; in fact if I did I’d end up telling her which wild result in divorce & me probably ending my life.
I really think that she is my soul mate.
Jacking it to porn don’t work.
I’ve told her how rejected it masked me feel, but she just says that I relate sex to love too much.
Any sincere suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks.
My wife is sexually selfish (I miss blow jobs, don't want to cheat),
Blowjobs are not something every woman will do so thats great that your wife uses that in foreplay. Your way ahead of so many guys whose wives wont go down there at all. Try to love and respect your wifes feelings about how she chooses to express her love to you instead of compareing her to past lovers and storming off. Very childish and a huge turnoff for her. (I hope you dont say other girls got you off) You sound like the sexually selfish one. Sex is an act of expressing love in a way you feel comfortable expressing it. Making such a big deal of this may result in her becoming one of those wives who refuses to go down there at all anymore, My husband has never pressured me for oral but did tell me he would love it. Not feeling pressured made me want to please him. I cant complete the act either, its too hard for me. It takes too long and he needs it fast and my jaw and neck hurt and I actually started crying LOL It was frustrateing so now he joins in and helps finish it while I lick the tip and caress his buddies with lots of lube. He is understanding and we worked out a compromise that we are both satisfied with. He said he feels loved . He knows I want to please him but I just cant and he has come to understand how difficult it is . He even has said theres no way you could get me off, I need it firm and fast and I wouldnt even want to do that LOL. Grow up buddy and open up some sincere respectful conversation with your wife before you lose the oral foreplay all together. Then youll be crying.
Ok either Marie misinterpreted the story, or I did. So basically your wife doesnt suck the d? If not, that’s bs. I posted here because I googled the subject. Ill say this, my ex wife whom I am still great friends with and was together for over 10 years, NEVER had a problem with bj’s and she was even abused as a child. Sometimes I would wake up to getting head. She also didnt have any problems with ejaculate either…on any part of her body nor the mouth so I dont know what your wife’s problem is. I honestly can’t believe their are still women like that out there. I would tell her, honestly that a bj is a pleasurable ego boost for us.
I think you should be happy that you’re getting something to begin with. If you really want to finish that way then talk to her. If she doesn’t like to finish with the BJ then come to a compromise, be happy your getting your dick sucked at all dude.