I went through my husband’s text message with his “sister” who he describes to me as his soul mate.
Note: My husband and I have an open policy where we can just go into each other’s phone. It was wrong of me nonetheless; I won’t deny that.
His “sister” is not biologically related to him and has been with her current partner for 12 years. Starting last year, they started texting each other telling each other “I love you” or I love you more than anyone else”. Despite understanding their relationship, I was uncomfortable with this. He texted her asking for “love and attention” asked to see her and her daughter “just the three of us”. Her, “Don’t be sad. I love you.” Him, “I miss you already” Her, “I miss you always, other half. *kissy heart face x 2* it goes on with some variations of this throughout conversations over the next couple days.
Her mother booked her tickets somewhere for her and her daughter but not her partner. Him, “no [insert partner’s name]? Ha!” Her, “I bet she’d have bought you a ticket if I married you. Lmao” Him, “so many missed opportunities” her, “hahaha” Him, “It’s not too late.”
He starts throwing comments about our sex life. And bashing me later on. I find out later that he also has mouths me to my brother, my mother and his parents.
My mom pleaded with me not to divorce him saying my kids don’t deserve this. How would you proceed? Am I being oversensitive to an innocent friendship?