I’m so sick of living like this
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I’m so sick of living like this

We have been married almost 25 years. The last 20 I’ve tried everything to get my husband to do anything or just go for a ride, something. All he every wants to do is watch TV with his face buried in a laptop or some gadget. The weekends he takes off golfing with the guys, I’m home by myself again. We bought bikes 6~7 years ago, he’s rode with maybe 5 times at most. These were not cheap bikes (trex), he just doesnt want to go any place or do anything with me. I have no doubt he loves me. We have sex maybe 2-3 times a year, I’m to the point of I could care less. So after he was out golfing all day he asked me if I was made at him? IIke it ever matters if I’m upset. I responded with not at all, I get it!” I get it” as in I get that you don’t want to spend any time or do anything with me. I don’t think he really knew what I was saying. Im disabled due to an injury but for God sakes I’m not dead. I give up.
Thanks for letting me vent.

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  1. Glenda

    He’s an asshole.
    Your vent is warranted.
    Find a pen pal .. penpal world.
    Why should you be miserable to make him happy?
    Start finding a man who appreciates you and your time.
    It’s never too late to find joy.

  2. Louie

    You sound like my wife did a bunch of years ago. I was buried in my work and community based organizations that I was a member of. She would withdraw and not care anymore. I was reading an article about spousal loneliness and everything talked about in the article was exactly what was going on in our lives. We talked, I went to individual counseling and tried to remember what our life was like 30’years ago when we got married…..I couldn’t stand to see the look on her beautiful face….the look of hurt and depression. I started planning dates …..we went from having sex 2 times a year to once or sometimes twice a week. We got playful again…..the smile is back in her eyes….and mine too. Please if I can offer you any advice, let your husband see this post….sometimes we husbands need a kick in the ( excuse my language) ass. Best wishes to you

  3. Tsakalov

    Dear author,
    Maybe he does not know how to handle the matter of to disability. I don’t write to support your husband’s side. I am a disabled person too. I remember back then, before my health issue, I had friends and we would hang out every day. When I had to come through some health issue, they left me alone without explaining the reason why. I know is nothing like having a spouse not paying attention on their spouse. I just want to say that there are people who are not capable of understanding what one passes through. I have got two questions. When the disability knocked your door, how did he behave? Also, how many years have you been married to your husband?

    Please, don’t give up. I don’t know you, but I totally support you.


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