Ok – it’s a long story. He’s in general a good guy. Can be loud and call names on a fairly normal basis. Can also be somewhat of a narcissist. Whatever isn’t good enough, clean enough, etc. Then there’s the step-daughter. She’s sweet, normally, but also has an eye for the brand names and fancy stuff. Case in point, wanted a $350 comforter set to take to college – he was going to purchase it! Until I stated, I am over 40 and have yet to spend that on myself! We’ve been together since she was 6, she’s now 17 and off to college in a couple weeks. He’s continually over doing Disneyland-dad type. We have 6 horses! She’s done high school rodeo for 4 years, and junior rodeos/weekend races in between. None of this was cheap. Now i’ve been told it’s “his” money and I should stay out of it. I’m at a loss. We have had separate checking accounts for about 6 months. I don’t know what he spends on her, but it’s a lot. Then he complains he’s broke and I need to make more. I don’t spend on my own daughter like that. She’s almost 21 and has a job, etc. We pay phone & car insurance for both kids. Mine pays for college (minus her first 2 years were covered by child support I held onto) – Am I being unreasonable? I feel like he needs to cut the cord a little and save our financial future together and tell her no. He’s not really spoken to me in about a week because “You hate my daughter” is his only answer. He won’t go to counseling and I’m ready to throw in the towel.
He makes more than me & spends on step-daughter too much