My husband is a critical person anyways but I have found that he constantly bad mouths me to his friends. If he is so unhappy why cant he say it to my face? I have overheard him complain about my cooking but when I go out of my way to buy him something I know he likes half the time he doesn’t even eat it, he just drops it in the fridge. We ne er go out he would rather go out with his friends. Now in depression I have gained weight and am have a hard time to even find the drive to get it off. I love him and we have good memories but is he toxic? His mom is very mean and I know he had a rough past but I don’t know if I can go on like this forever. Also a few years ago he had am affair and even though its over he is still in contact with the woman.