Divorce really isn’t an option for me as I have a child. I’m willing to take on the fact that I am not loved and without a partner to make sure that my daughter has everything she needs. It isn’t her fault for her father’s mistake.

My wife outwardly is willing to help friends and strangers in the community. She volunteers at a homeless shelter, sings in the church choir, and is willing to lend a hand to anyone in need. Everyone seems to just love her.

She has also gained close to 200 pounds since we were married 7 years ago. She refuses to do anything about it despite me willing to do anything to help. She gets angry when I bring up the subject, and just seems to gain another 10 to 15 pounds. I’m a former personal trainer, and she was a cheerleader in the past. I’m not pretending that I’m the same as when I was in college, but I’m also in great shape and enjoy distance running. It feels like outside of our daughter, there is no reason for us to be together.

Her health is becoming poor, and she constantly has breathing issues that are getting worse. I can’t force myself to have sex with her anymore, as she even smells bad not being able to clean herself. The lack of intimacy has me thinking about an affair, but I can’t do that as I want to set a positive example for my daughter.

Please don’t reply to this post calling me an asshole, I’m not. I’m not a cheater and my daughter is the most important thing in my life. I also feel completely alone, and really don’t know what to do at this point.

Thanks for reading.